What’s the big deal about two people wanting to get married?A special report examines claims in favor of same-sex marriage in the light of recent discoveries.
Claim:Committed, life-long relationships between two men or two women are no different than relationships between a man and a woman.
Nearly half of long-term relationships between two men admit to staying open, with lovers on the side. This has been documented by the rise of new HIV infections among homosexual men in steady relationships.“Many Gay Couples Negotiate Open Relationships,” by Meredith May San Francisco Chronicle, sfgate.com, July 16, 2010, reporting on a study by Colleen Hoff of The Center for Research on Gender & Sexuality at San Francisco State University.See also a study of the rise of HIV in male couples in Amsterdam, by Maria Xiridoua, Ronald Geskusa, John deWita, Roel Coutinhoa, and Mirjam Kretzschmard, in the journal AIDS, 2003.
Couples to traditional marriage take vows of fidelity to their partners.Same –sex marriage is not just an expansion of the couples who are entitled to be married.It also changes the basic assumptions of what it means to be married.
Claim:Children who have two male parents or two female parents are being deprived of the ability to call their parents “married.”
Poor health, learning disabilities, hyperactivity, and behavior problems were more common amongst children who were not raised with both parents as either a biological or adoptive parent (called the “nuclear family”), according to a survey by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Centers for Disease Control and Prevention,“Family Structure and Children’s Health in the United States:Findings from the National Health Information Survey, 2001-2007.” By Debra L. Blackwell, Ph.D., Vital and Health Statistics, Series 10, Number 246, December 2010.
The non-traditional family structure also has economic consequences.Non-nuclear families are also more likely to require government assistance.The Blackwell study mentioned above also reported that children raised in non-nuclear families were more likely to have two or more emergency room visits in the past 12 months, to have receipt of needed prescription medication delayed due to lack of affordability, and to have gone without needed dental care due to cost in the past 12 months.
We might observe that the gift of patience, compassion and mercy that a biological parent of a child enjoys unfortunately is not given to that parent’s lover who is not a blood relative of the child.That means that far more children end up beaten, drowned or thrown, G-d forbid, to their death or injury when they are raised by a parent who has no biological relation to them.The incidence of child abuse is much higher amongst families where one of the children is not biologically related to the parent, the Associated Press reported, after a series of interviews with scholars and case workers. “Abuse Risk Seen Worse as Families Change,” by David Crary of the Associated Press, USA Today, November 20, 2007.
Claim:The desire of one man for another or one woman for another is a part of who they are, and they deserve the equal rights to be married as much as any other couple.
Scientists in China recently found that male mice bred without serotonin lose their preference for females. These specially bred males lacking serotonin were far more likely than the other male mice to pursue other males and emit a “mating call” normally given off when encountering females. The researchers found that a preference for females could be restored by injecting serotonin in the brain.“Sexual Preference Chemical Found in Mice,” BBC News: Health, March 23, 2011, reporting on a study published in Nature by Yan Liu, Yun’ai Jiang, Yunxia Si, Ji-Young Kim, Zhou-Feng Chen & Yi Rao.
Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that is associated with dominance and social rank, along with seeking food and procreation. We might cautiously observe that amongst human beings, a tyrannical dominance by the father or an elder brother of a young boy might leave scars that are far more than emotional.A boy’s diminished interest in seeking a female partner and desire for other males may trace back to an early trauma at the hands of a dominant male.
As a legal category, calling men who desire men and women who desire women a “class” entitled to “equal protection” may require closer analysis.For example, a black man who suffers racism, a woman who is degraded by sexism, or an immigrant who is shamed by a slur on his nationality, at no point in their personal history had a moment when they “discovered” that they were black, female, or foreign.Their status is bound up with their identity.They require the benefit of protection of the law because for the most part it is difficult for them to escape other people’s recognition of their race, womanhood or foreignness. The topic of whether or not a person is a homosexual may be a pastime for gossip columnists but it is never replicated about race or womanhood.
The professional lobbying agencies for these men and women have chosen to take the posture that desiring members of one’s own sex is an immutable feature of the personality.And yet, virtually no study has ever documented the theory that sexual preference is grounded in a personal’s immutable nature.The Liu study cited above indicates that just like depression or bipolar disorder, sexual desire may indeed be an area that can be treated with appropriate intervention.
All people are required to rule over their desires.
In the Introduction to the Righteous Voter’s Guide in the Fall of 2008, we predicted that the passage of same-sex marriage would contribute to a rise in violent sexual crime, as a result of the message that human beings are fundamentally incapable of ruling over their desires.In fact, this prediction has born out to be true even short of its actual enactment.
After much fanfare and controversy, the New York State Senate held a vote on whether to enact same-sex marriage in New York in December 2009. Thank G-d, it failed. But with all due respect to the Senators, the imminent passage of this bill may have lodged an image of recklessness and abandon in the public mind at large.
For example, after several years of continuous decline to record-low levels, the murder rate in New York city began to rise in 2010.“New York City Murder Rate Spiking,” Associated Press/ NBC New York, November 12, 2010. A greater number of rapes were reported in 2010. Most notable, perhaps, was this year’s brazen assault of an elderly woman in one of Manhattan’s most prestigious neighborhoods.An itinerant tattoo artist who was reported to cohabit with a transsexual viciously forced a woman in her 80’ into a repulsive sex act, in broad daylight.There was also an eerie string of three consecutive, deadly accidents over the course of one month, where cars flew out-of-control from the newly renamed “Ed Koch Queesboro Bridge.” “Third Ed Koch Queensboro Bridge Accident,” by Sophia Hall, CBS New York/ WCBS 880, May 15, 2011. Alongside a vote to legalize same-sex marriage, a cloud of confusion seems to descend on the city.
Similarly, we can find that the drop-off of the American economy with the collapse of Lehman Brothers in 2008 followed nearly a week after a New York State Supreme judge upheld an executive order by former Governor David Paterson that all same-sex marriages performed out of state must be recognized in New York.
The first stirrings of economic recovery, marked by a surge in the New York Stock Exchange, emerged that spring, in the same week that lawyers appeared before the California Supreme Court to challenge the voter-approved constitutional amendment defining marriage as a man and a woman.Journalists at that time had accurately reported the posture of the judges being inclined to support the traditional definition of marriage.
All human beings are required to direct their desires into the committed relationship of a marriage between a man and a woman.The desire for unity with another person in an intimate embrace may be a taste of eternity, which at its most refined, can find expression in the desire of a person to resemble his Creator as a man himself brings a new life into the world.
The obligation to maintain relations in the context of marriage is a matter of common sense, and also a received tradition from the time that the whole human race was united as one family.The laws of Noah, a universal moral, spiritual and legal code binding on all human beings, was given by G-d Almighty to the Jewish people in the Torah through Moses.We invite the reader to consult a local Orthodox rabbi for further details.
by Dovid Z. Schwartz, (917) 680-6632.
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